It Might Be a Thing

I guess I should update, seeing as how one of my friends had no clue about a guy I referenced and she said “blog it, bitch!”

Last update was about the online guy. We proceeded to hang out for the month of November. We lay under the stars one night and talked quantum physics, thus dubbed him Starboy. Weirdly, the next morning over coffee, we had nothing to talk about. It wasn’t an issues at the time until I realized it happened every time. Plus, the way he talked about other people made me uneasy. Judgemental, negative. One of my favorite quotes is “people don’t seem to realize that their opinion of the world is an admission of character” (Emerson). He was one who did all the right things, but the attitude behind it left me uneasy.

Meanwhile on Instagram, this other guy popped up. I went out with him once last year, then I told him I wasn’t interested because that’s when things were getting more serious with surfer boy. Anyway, this other guy, we’ll call him G, because I haven’t figured out his moniker yet, messaged me in the DM on Insta and said he’d like to catch up. He was in South America at the time, back in three weeks. I was still hanging with Starboy at the time.

Starboy went out of town before Thanksgiving, then I went out of town for Thanksgiving. Then he left again, so I didn’t see him for two weeks. Meanwhile, G was messaging me daily, sending me pics from South America (of the scenery, not the other kind of DM pics, LOL). Except he was also alluding to physical stuff. The one time we went out–he took me to a Padres game–we had this amazing make-out session at my front door which almost led to an all-nighter except I wouldn’t let him come inside my house.

I went to Utah for Thanksgiving and hung out with this guy I know there. He made the two-hour drive to my parents’ home town so we could go hiking together. He stayed for dinner and met the family, which is significant in that the only other guy I’ve ever taken home was my ex husband. I was all in crushland with UT boy, except he didn’t actively pursue me after that. He still hasn’t. And i want to be pursued.

When I came back to town, G asked me to out. Given his penchant for sexual remarks, I told him my going out with him depended on what his idea of a date was. He assured me it would be in public with clothes on.

He picked me up for dinner, and I marveled at our chemistry, because he’s not my usual type. But we had fantastic conversation over dinner, then we went to the beach where we started making out. The chemistry was not to be ignored.

I hung out with Starboy later that week and realized the connection had fizzled. I’ve made plans with him since but we’ve flaked on each other and now it’s been a week since I heard from him.

G is still around. I like him. We don’t see each other a whole lot, because our schedules are completely opposite. However, he has met most of my friends and I some of his. We exchanged Xmas gifts. I got him a pair of socks since I always steal his, and he got me some fancy coffee and treats for my dog.

He joined my gym and is doing a 60 day challenge with me, so we are committed at least through March. He is in fantastic shape and pushes me with my workouts. He also reminds me to be nice when I’m talking about other people. He loves music and plays the guitar and surfs and meditates.

It’s too early for me to say whether or not I would commit to him. Funny how that’s all I wanted for so long, but now I am so happy and in love with my life that I’m only going to commit to someone if it’s really right. I don’t know if G and I are compatible in the long run, that remains to be seen, but I’m liking it so far, and I got my wish of having someone around for all the cuddle weather.

I’m leaving town for a week. When that happened with Starboy, it fizzled. I don’t think it will with G. Because maybe, just maybe, it might be a thing.